Suppose a "love marriage, long-lasting formula", you will follow? Of course, would be. Who does not want to enduring love feel? American scholar, Catherine Johnson, after investigation and study are listed in the "Marriage and Love in a lasting formula," Catherine said: I like a variety of wedding dance, watch dance pairs The middle-aged couple was an absolute mutual trust and passion ...
Catherine met with 100 pairs of such couples, they married the shortest was 7 years, the longest was 55 years, the following is a lasting love, these couples possess a common formula.
Intimate formula
I have met the 100 couples, most of which soon became intimate acquaintance. They feel there is a non-stop emotion, hope and sharing of life combined in one.
Coordination and thoughtful:
This intimate relations, including a coordinated and thoughtful friendship, which is based on consistency of enthusiasm, also based on the difference between each other. A wife, raised an interesting point of view, she said: "happy marriage comes from two relatively in personality, and in the basic situation of the same people." Her husband was a naturally optimistic person, she is within a pessimistic person. However, They shared origin and religious beliefs, so that she fell in love with his spirit, and he fell in love with her fragile.
Sharing Formula
A spouse for breakfast, another to walk the dog, after breakfast the couple read in conjunction with Morning News, all the relations between stable couples are almost always like this. The trivia itself, although it can not produce happiness, but it is injected into the marriage relationship of trust and responsibility.
Vision and Goals:
Happy couples are trying to show their home has been changed. They work together in order to enable them to purchase a farm, or a shop. What is the goal regardless of their order to achieve the ideal joint efforts to make the marital relationship radiant glow.
Understanding Formula
The couple rarely quarrel lasting love, even if conflicts arise between them due to the angry, will be correctly addressed. Of course, they solve the problem by various means. Some couples have always been the same day to resolve the contradictions, some of it overnight, calm down, re-treatment, some shouting, some silence, there are a couple in order to avoid disputes and come up with a way to, if the party says the gas people say, cried the other would be: "The train derailed!"
Partner dig each other, which is a common, but it has an adverse impact. More encouraging, the effect would be much better.
Agreement and wishes:
Sometimes, even though they tried his best, but still kicked up, one party or the other would leave the room. The wife said: "If I go out, but five minutes I'll be back. We do not even need to say 'sorry', because we are very pleased, both of them come together." The couple will use this method to avoid further arguments, so that the other party to quit reminded of their agreement, I think of the good wishes of their marriage.
Nourishing Formula
When the spouses to focus on the merits in each other, their marriage will be nourished, it is not to say that both parties are optimists, they may be pessimistic, irritable, melancholy character of people.
Optimistic realism is one of the characteristics of a happy marriage. Mature love means marriage, we have to accept the reality we all have shortcomings. Be a realist, which means bitter marriage with music, there is a smooth, when there is a difficult time, instead of nagging, it is better to face.
Expectations and look forward to:
Positive expectations can play a huge role. Spouses of those who are most adept at looking for the advantages of persons, relations have developed the best expectations of the spouse is also the best. When we love someone, we are in his or her eyes will see the best of self.
To change the formula
Many happy couples know how to change themselves, they said: they become more after marriage, they all feel better, while their spouses are also agree with that. Unexpected is that many happy couples have gone through a marriage crisis, but their marriage has survived, and increasingly happy.
The development must be for love to give up some things, but no one asked to give up personal development, the key is to estimate the change in scope. Party may temporarily shake the relationship between changes in the status quo, in fact, it has encouraged the role of the other party.
Equality formula
In general couples to the forty to fifty years old, for whom they are no longer masters of the dispute, even if they had had a dispute. Although there will be conflicts, but they are not for power and status, but in their minds, no matter what they do, their efforts have been regarded as important. When you start more consideration and care for your relationship, you will each get more in return.
Dominance and equality:
Happy couples have an equal relationship with the most clearly manifested in the financial management. Every couple of well-being, without exception, that the family income is their common, neither he nor her, they never dominated the dispute for the fiscal.
Friends Formula
A happy marriage, love their spouses regarded as the most intimate friends, but, if their relationship is sometimes not enough trust, not moderate, then it should be a formal arrangement to do more. The arrangements have a positive effect of the positive spouses.
Pursuit of and respect:
Long-lasting love in these marriages "friend", the wife enjoys complete freedom to pursue their own ideals, she knew her husband for her is unconditional love and respect, regardless of whether he understood her decision. On the contrary, the husband's decision is also no exception
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