Induced man "one-night stand" factors

"One-night stand" and the different nature of prostitution is that the former is to both men and women's sexual and psychological desires satisfied, while the latter is to satisfy one's sexual desires, it is essentially is a kind of monetary transactions.

In accordance with Freud's psychoanalytic theory, "one-night stand," the desire from the "I" the call of instinct of human nature revealed. Freud had "an illusion of the future" that "man is an instinctive desire to be dominated by low-energy biological mentally retarded." Therefore, the desire for "one-night stand", it is only human. And according to Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory, the original sex of human needs met, she is always there with the moment, and it is no choice; while love is a high level of human spiritual pursuit is to occur under specific circumstances, and it is have a choice. Maslow once said: "human beings apart from animals is an important aspect of his self-control." Therefore, the cardiac action does not mean that people in most circumstances, can exercise restraint, "one-night stand," the impulse to desire.

　"One-night stand," there are four types of the occurrence of

"One-night stand" can be different according to the psychological motivation, roughly classified into four types.

Sex pheromone-based one-night stand: From the sex instinct, for the opposite sex has a great affection, eager to close contact. Behavior to active the temptation to each other, waiting for the other side responded positively and look forward to a continued close contact.

　Revenge-type one-night stand: From emotional harm, and self-love (over) who have great resentment, hope that, through sex with others to make up their minds in pain. Behavior in a certain order for the initiative to lure the opposite sex they like and look forward to other positive response, but not necessarily look forward to a continued close contact.

　Confusion-type one-night stand : From anxiety, to the great discomfort to a particular environment was very confused, hungry for comfort and warmth of the opposite sex. Behavior as a half-hearted, eager to get the satisfaction of sensory stimulation in order to fill the inner emptiness.

　Implied type one-night stand: From scenarios suggest that a particular sexually suggestive scenarios has a great curiosity, looking forward, eager to try. Behavior as a half-hearted, the phrase "one-night stand" as a trendy, popular, or compliance behavior to chase.

　Sex pheromone-based one-night stands prominent examples,Jinshan famous actor in China in 1951 to a certain country to visit, Jinshan met with its leaders are very excited on the spot, said to be a good interview, write a good film. Leaders greatly appreciated, and brought his beautiful female secretary to the Jinshan a tour guide and translator. But before long, two of them were found "guilty of the error to go to bed." Leaders with rage, ordered a shot of a female secretary. Jinshan is a view of the Chinese people, put him over the leadership of China's treatment. Zhou Enlai ordered Jinshan were escorted back to Beijing's handling. Back in Beijing, the Jinshan in expulsion from the party to remove the administrative functions, and are subject to separate review. As the wife of Sun Weishi Jinshan tolerance and protection from the complete decentralization of Jinshan before the war. In December 1967, Jiang Qing is still "special suspicion" to the charges to Jinshan thrown in prison until the "Gang of Four" after the fall to complete liberation.

Revenge-type one-night stands prominent examples,Is a former British Princess Diana claimed that a close friend of Simone, Diana worked with former U.S. President John F. Kennedy, the son of John F. Kennedy had a one-night stand. In 1995, Diana went to the United States to participate in the activities of the royal family. Kennedy had just founded the "George" magazine wanted to interview with Diana, to expand their influence. Diana Kennedy declined an interview request, has agreed to, and him meet. But then, when the tall and handsome John F. Kennedy Jr. appeared in front of Diana, she suddenly felt most exciting, but Kennedy also Princess Diana's sexy dress and blood boil. The stories, according to Simone, Diana later said: "We began to talk, to talk about one topic after another, we finally went to bed, all this is completely amazing chemistry." By this time, Diana and Charles divorced yet. Prior to this, Charles, on television openly admitted his betrayal of marriage act, Diana very much want to exact retribution. Kennedy's appearance gave her the opportunity to retaliate.

　　Confusion-type one-night stands prominent examples,The United States a player O'Neill said that he and supermodel Cindy Crawford once had a "night of passion." At that time, Cindy and married to Hollywood star Richard Gere for four years just because of birth to the child's differences to break up, which makes her confused and frustrated once, malaise and heart needed relief and considerate of others. By this time, O'Neill had just joined the Orlando Magic NBA team, it was high-spirited, the two met, hit it off, so there will be a night of romance. Later, they did not adjourned to the passion, it seems like nothing has happened.

　　-Type one-night stands suggest a prominent example ofAmerican cult Lord David,曾以leader on behalf of his estate to induce all the adult women have sexual relations with him. Finally he was pursued by the government and the illegal possession of arms. In order to avoid arrest, David actually ordered all of them were suicide Benru thick flames. David claims to be Jesus's assistant, allows his followers to obtain permanent relief. He also is a living self-proclaimed prophet, declared that "if" the Bible "is real, then I am Jesus Christ." He used the extraordinary capacity of believers who want to have the mentality to rule them, and establish a personality cult. He deceived the female believers said that in the end of the world approaching, he will lead you to go to heaven, and to non-believers to kill. Large number of female followers were moved by his lies, have actively sought out David, and to be proud of his bed.

"One-night stand": small group of "high end" to the general public's "low-end"

Accordance with the relevant psychology and sociology research, in the above four types, the sex pheromone-based accounting for Liu Cheng, revenge-type accounts for about two-shing, confusion type and hinted about a different type into a half years. The proportion of educational attainment, a sociologist Li Yinhe said, "The one-night stand" in industrial society, urban society should be a universal phenomenon. Indeed, no love and marriage constraints, "one-night stand", as long as consensual, not to harm others, does not affect the community, when can not be considered violations of ethics; but there is love and marriage are bound by the "one-night stand", there are pairs of love and marriage, the other that the different degrees of injury, the family and society at large will lead to serious consequences.

Professor of Sociology at Peking University, Xia suggested that "one-night stand" in the higher education who is relatively common, since it is mainly spread on the Internet, while the more highly educated people, the more able to rationalize their actions to do to explain to gain psychological balance. Zhu Jianjun, Beijing Forestry University psychologist also pointed out that contact with the crowd on his own point of view, happen "one-night stand," mostly white-collar workers who the community. The reason is that these people get married relatively late, and some even fear of marriage, but the need, therefore, we will look for sexual partners. In addition, changes in some people because life is great in Beijing today and tomorrow in Shanghai, can not build a stable marriage, so it means freedom of choice.

Recently, the well-known Web site launched by mobile phone users one-night stand survey, one-night stand is to a younger age, low level of development, thus, one-night stands are small masses through various channels of the "high end" to the popular " low-end. " The survey of people prone to one-night stands mainly students, a foreign land to work dominated. Experts said that most of the one-night stand-prone groups are seeking to stimulate, first of all because they do not have a clear life goals, so hope to get rid of irresponsible sex life of emptiness, such an act may eventually develop into psychology on the said, "sex addicts." Furthermore, due to the gradual opening up cultural, traditional and less capable of moral restraints, it is more open attitude towards sex, while the migrant workers and students to distinguish between right and wrong, because of their lack of ability and self-control can easily be "one-night stand" The temptation.

　　"One-night stand" myth: suspension of anxiety and depression, but not the individual solution of a number of crises

To sum up, "one-night stand" can only be a moment to ease some anxiety and depression, it can not be alleviated permanently. In other words, "one-night stand" in meeting with a person's physical desires, it is also cheating with a person's soul. As a result, the kind of Hope "one-night stand" the men and women will have feelings, or even the idea of marriage, mostly in self-deception.

What is more, "one-night stand" would create a lot of personal crisis, such as the moral crisis, for the indulgence of self-condemnation, especially for people with families, the "one-night stand" in the lives of psychologically kinds of fresh spices, But the more self-induced psychological crisis and family crisis. Not long ago, there was a fire in a book called "break up after daybreak, said," talking about the 19 urban women's "one-night stand" Record. Some of them were addicted to indulgence, and some people are out of control 1:00; some people indulge after the rude awakening, and some of whom are apathetic.

French sexologist阿兰埃希尔pointed out that the desire of men are more affected by the physical chemistry of the need to vent a timely manner, while women's desires are even more affected by the brain needs to pave the way full. Therefore, the men in the "one-night stand" in seeking to achieve is to stimulate and fresh, while women are seeking affection and hope. In other words, men try to "one-night stand", which are mostly the outcome of a dot, sex is a starting point, is also a destination; while women try to "one-night stand" and its outcome is largely a triangle, sex, love, self-protection Shou-3 Line side.

The United States the name of a marriage counselor Gray has a view that "man drill hole, a woman well-digging." That is, when the men are frustrated, his first thought was to escape, just as the hole is not out of hiding places, and then gradually restored; while women setbacks, her first thought was for help, such as submerged in the bottom wait for rescue, is very eager to get other people's understanding and comfort. Thus, "one-night stand" is often the purpose is not in itself, but rather to relieve the emotional tension. In fact, physiological studies have shown that people are at tension, the sex hormones will be activated, sexual desire tends to increase. "One-night stand," what the parties will in the end, I am afraid that only the conscience of both men and women know best